Our studio has become a cell Phone Free Zone !!!
I am so grateful to all the studio parents who joined me in making the studio a phone-free zone.
What a message you are all giving to your children.
I know it's not easy... but as I say to the kids when they claim: " I can't do it ! It's too hard", i say : "it's not hard. It's just new.. We'll keep practicing it until it becomes easy"...
Thank you parents for your participation from the heart !!
Last week i've had a chat with a Suzuki teacher overseas. It repeated a topic which i had heard many times from instrumental teachers. It was about children quitting and the way the message is being delivered to the teacher.
Sometimes parents just send a text message to say: "we are going to stop".
Sometimes the message comes a day or two before the term/semester/year starts,
and after the parents had already secured their place in the studio.
Sometimes an email, short and not saying much : " We've decided to stop".
i had this experience a few times too; i know the feeling and i'll dare to share.
i would like to talk on behalf of Suzuki teachers (at least the ones i talked to about this subject), as this is my tribe of teachers. I'd guess the same happens in other areas of instrumental teaching.
We Suzuki teachers, do not teach only music. Suzuki Way is a holistic approach towards children education, and as such, we teach the child how to be, how to learn, how to live.
We accompany the family throughout the many years; usually from very early years of childhood until children mature and finish high school ( and sometimes later).
The families become close to our heart. The child becomes very important in our life, and so are we in the the child's life.
I understand that parents sometimes decide to stop. This is their prerogative.
But please - don't just notify us. Talk to us. See if there's anything we can help (and many times we can).
If you already made up your mind - please tell us the reason and don't leave on a vague cloud.
Let us know the truth. If you decided to go to another teacher - tell us. If you decided that you don't like the way we teach - tell us. If you don't want to commit any longer - tell us. And please don't do it in the last minute. Give us enough notice to fill in your time slot.
Any other way leaves us hurt and confused.
Open communication is what we need , so we can genuinely bless you on your decision(even if we don't agree).
So much noise around.. so much stimuli... Everyone has something to say.
And most of us are terrified of the silence within.
This is the place that we meet ourselves. This is where we find many answers to our longing. This is where the BELOVED resides - and speaks to us. With no words; in SOLITUDE.
And then... you are free ! You don't carry the burden of begrudge. You are not occupied with thoughts about the matter. Oh, yes, these thoughts !!... They range from revenge ( sweet or bitter) all the way to self-doubt (and further more to self -hatred).
These thoughts that pester in you... like brewed yeast.
Until you wake up one morning ( or night) to the sound of the voice that whispers ( or shouts): "ENOUGH"! No one in the world should hold this power over you. The power that you give to others so freely, unaware that you do.
Forgive them - because you deserve to be free !
Around Christmas of last year i've chosen the Vegan Path. It actually feels that this was the only first step i had to take. Since then it felt that veganism chose me....
The transition was surprisingly (to me) smooth and easy. As a matter of fact i feel as if i've always been vegan.
From a way of eating it has become a way of life.
From a way of life it became a philosophy of existence (for all creatures).
From philosophy of existence it became a path.
And it all makes sense now.
i am vegan because :
1. i don't want to be a part of the slaughter of animals. Everyone has a soul; me included.
2. i care for the future of the planet; not just "my" planet ( the one that exist while i'm alive) , or even my children's planet. i care for the future - 7- generations- planet.
3. i respect my body - my health.
The rewards i receive every day are a clearer mind and deeper/ open heart.
i recently spent time in NZ teaching in a Suzuki Music Camp. i woke up one morning to the cry of a cow. She was crying because her calf was taken away from her. She wanted to feed him just as i wanted to feed my children. It's not a decision that her or i had to make. It was in our nature. It is our nature. We, mothers, need and want to feed our offsprings. This is our duty; our right.
Veganism has opened my eyes and my heart to a new level of understanding and experience.
i feel the connection between all living creatures.
So when you ask me if it's not hard for me to be a vegan, and if i don't miss the food i used to ear before, i'd say the opposite is true. i feel that i'm gaining every day. The list of bonuses has just started. i'm discovering more as i go. Yes.
And the vegan food is the embodiment of yumminess for my bud taste. i'm rediscovering the joy of cooking and food preparing. i revere the gifts of mother earth. i'm in awe at the beauty, colours and energy that each plant-based recipe grants me.
iVegan is becoming my way of life; not my diet.
When i was 8 or 9 years old, a book about the Holocaust fell into my hands.
i read it from cover to cover. i couldn't put it aside.
i went back to the library and borrowed another book about the Holocaust.
i read it through without putting it aside. This repeated over and over again. When i finished the "light" books (the ones that children "could handle" ), i went on and took off the shelf books about the Holocaust that were written for adults. At that time you couldn't borrow more than one book at a time, so i visited the library every few days.
The librarian called my mother and expressed her concern. "Mama", i said to my mother when she shared the librarian's concern "this is the least i can do! i need to know what happened there ! i need to feel it !".
i did not stop until i read e v e r y s i n g l e b o o k the library had about the Holocaust.
Now a similar thing happens to me about Veganism.
It might look like an obsession. i need to watch the movies. i need to read about it. i need to feel what the animals might feel; or at least get close to what it might be.
i need to KNOW. Once the gate of awareness has opened i cannot go back to sleep. i should not go back to sleep.
She’s here! she’s just arrived and I’m already in love. Like a new born precious baby that has so much to promise.
I look at her. She' still fresh and warm. She opens her eyes, trying to adjust to the roaring sound of the fireworks, the blinking light of colours sparkling, flashing . She’s staring at me, at us, trying to understand where she is.
I welcome her like a loving mother. I say to her: welcome to the world. YOU ARE 2018! You are unique. Instead of asking what you have for me, I’ll tell you what I have for you.
i promise to give you everything I can to make you happy, healthy, peaceful and loved. I’m going to give you every bit of creativity I have – and more – to make you different and original. After all you are the first 2018 that was born to us –and we, the whole village - are going to raise you TOGETHER with all our heart. We will do our best to make it worthwhile for you to be here.
I’m happy you made it! (there were times I wasn’t sure that you’ll come).
We’ve been waiting for you, for 2017 years.
Last day of 2017 is born.
Time to close chapter 2017 so chapter 2018 could start tomorrow.
i'm packing in my 2017 bag pack to take with me to 2018: good habits created, new discoveries found, new insights to be implemented, new ideas to manifest, new friendships to cherish, new projects started and waiting to be completed (watch the space...), more days of rest, new routine of extended hours Off the Grid (LOVE it!), new way of eating (yes, plant-based) and LOVE of LIFE.
i'm leaving behind with gratitude :old habits that no longer serve me, procrastination, trying to do too much, FOMO ( Fear Of Missing Out), extra hours of social media and self-hatred.
HAPPY NEW YEAR !....
Feeling disappointed does not make me a disappointed person.
Feeling anger doesn't make an angry person.
Feeling impatience doesn't make me an impatient person.
Feelings come and go and when they are in my field, i feel them.
We tend to look for outer REASONS for the feeling we feel. i.e. "you made me angry" or "you make me happy" etc.
But the outer things are just the triggers.
By owning what we feel - we are not owned by the feelings.
Feeling come and go through us, beside us, like time.
Two more days to 2017.... Happy Feeling....